THE BLISSFUL COUPLE
Summer's here - A time for vacations. A time to reconnect and recharge the batteries.
A time for relationships to blossom; At the beach, the mountains or even in your own backyard, in your gazebo, with a gin and tonic and soft music as the background. Doesn't it feel sinfully delicious? Of course, much depends on whom you're with; Here is a perfect couple. Their love will never die............if only all our relationships could be so tender, so giving, so full of assurances that our love is returned unconditionally............
They laugh together.
Read together.
Dance together.
Paint together.
Listen to music together.
Walk, holding hands, together.
They love exchanging
Warm
Wet
Mushy
Kisses.
He rushes to greet her,
His arms outstretched,
Joyfully calling her name,
When he sees her arrive.
Who, are you wondering,
Is this blissful couple?
She is his grandma.
He is almost five.
(Dorothy Parker)
posted by Margaritagirrl @ 3:05 PM
32 comments
32 Comments:
Reading it brought to my mind the scenes from love actually.
Excellent! I think I'll send my husband on vacation alone w/o us.
very sweet. :)
mg,
made me smile! Adorable and touching.
lost,
i love that movie...
i am behaving(dont know how long)
lost....
great to see you back on the blog!
welcome home.
Cynic.....
I appreciate the good behaviour, It must SO hard on you...how long do you think you can manage it, hmmm?
just finished reading pearl abrahams book"the romantic reader"
great read.
i wonder how many of the female bloggers who blog on these type of blogs indentify with this character. a charedi or chasidic
women who feel trapped in their life style
cynic,
That's a good question to put out to FEMALE bloggers, and I wonder, do any of the MALE bloggers in our community ever feel like breaking away? It might be easier for them.....easier to stay inside the religion and easier to change the lifestlye a little.
Truth is, from some of the e-mails that I've gotten, there are quite a few - male AND female, who feel this way.
There is an answer. One CAN stay, and not feel trapped, if one has "the blissful partner". Then, it would never be a trap. It would be what it's supposed to feel like - a beautiful lifestyle to be shared.
BTW - if you liked Pearl Abraham's first book, try to read her second book, "Giving up America", and best of all, her latest, "The Seventh Beggar". Very good
Sahm4yrs,
Let me know how to get husband to go on a separate vacation...I'd love to arrange that too!
is pearl abraham related to isaac abraham?
kvetch
no she is related to his brother essau
That was great Margarita!!
Pearl Abraham's books rock!!
Let's start the spouse free vacation club! Sign me up!
NormalJew said...
"Let's start the spouse free vacation club! Sign me up!"
I HAVE A FEELING THAT THIS VACATION CLUB PLAN MAY ATTRACT A LOT OF PEOPLE...too bad that so many of us feel that way, and not the way I envisioned it in my post. A lot of hopes have been dashed and have travelled South in our marriages.
very nice blog unlike mine.
Keep it up great job,Very touching
He's not going on vacation alone. He refuses. :( So I guess we're going as a family after all. I'm not making reservations yet.
Margarita, Yup Marriage aint the fairytale so many of us have envisioned it to be!! But I am not complaining...many are in much worse shape than mine!!! And I love my kids!
Jewishbifemme- Why do you say your blog isnt nice?!
I think it rocks!! ;-)
Peace!
NJ from NJ
Normaljew lol not that it isnt nice lol it is just not the norm.
Thank You
I disagree With you growing up with parents who sometimes have been at each others wits end, I did not look foward to marriage.
It is safe to say marriage is 100% better than I envisioned. I cannot imagine my life without him. When there is honesty,communication,
love etc. respect marriage becomes a fairytale.. Things do not happen on its own you gotta work for it.
Being the best of friends in a marriage helps tons.
I love being around him why in the world would I go on a vacation without him?
Jewishbifemme- I am happy for you and that you are in fairytale land. I must say though that you are in the minority! Most frum marriages cannot weather the storm of honesty and openmindedness!
Most Bais yaakov girls were brainwashed to such a degree that their idea of marriage is distorted.....
God bless you!
Peace!
NJ from NJ
the more I read these ffb blogs the depresseder I get
It was a beutiful poem. At first I was thinking of my wife. We just got back from a weekend in the Berkshires where we lived that poem (except for the painting and I'll stop there) and I LOVE the twist at the end. I am bookmarking it. It goes to show that "love" is an amazing emotion that is limitless and all around us providing we are receptive to it. It is so sad when parents dont hug their children or couples that can't hug. For those who aren't next to the ones they love there is always Virtual Hugs
normaljew - "Most Bais yaakov girls were brainwashed to such a degree that their idea of marriage is distorted....."
Could you please elaborate? I'm a Bais Yaakov girl and would like to hear why you feel that way.
Love the surprise ending, lulei demistafina!
Yiddishe Mamme- 1)Most Bais Yaakov girls who went through the frum system were taught that Torah learning is the only accepted occupation, thus girls who get married and end up having a husband that works for a living subconciously disrespect him.
2) Most Bais Yaakov educated girls are taught that their bodies are meant to produce babies and not be pleasured, thus they do not allow their husbands to properly pleasure them and dont properly pleasure him back.
3) Most Bais yaakov girls leave the system thinking that anything sexual is bad. To them sex is a dirty word, thus any open communication with their husbands about any topics sexual are shunned. When a man lacks communication at home he may just not enjoy being home!
I am not saying ALL Bais Yaakov educated girls are like this, but a large majority are!!!
i can go on and on....but I think you get my drift!
Peace!
Nj from NJ
Sorry I've been so preoccupied and haven't answered anyone. Sahm, I hope you make sure that YOU have a great summer - with or without him!
NormalJew ....you're right. It's not a bed of roses, this marriage deal, unless you get the real long-stemmed rose, the perfect match, your best friend........and many don't. But you DO have your children, as you said, and that's everything!
In my previous post, I told you about an elderly couple; the wife is very sick.
Her husband asked me to say t'hillim for her for a Refuah Shelaimu, and so I am also asking you to have her in mind when you daven.
Her name is BEILA BAS MINDEL
Thanks...........
Margarita, I agree! My children are the world to me!
Dont get me wrong, I do love my wife, but it still aint no fairytale.
All the best,
Peace!
NJ from NJ
Not bad.
Aren't there NORMAL Gedolim out there who have NORMAL lives and NORMAL wives and get it? Can it really be that the frum Oilom is so messed up that the only way they look at sex is either as bad and therefore have lousy sex lives together, or "bad" and therefore go looking outside to fulfill urges that aren't filled at home?
Is that really how it goes? Because that is NOT how it's supposed to be...Hashem wants to couple to enjoy themselves, of course with a level of refinement and mutual respect, agreement, dignity, etc. But that doesn't mean it can't be satisfying....
I dunno...Jsirpicco came through another door and his Rebbeim sort of put it out there that you should please your wife, the Rebbetzins put it out there that you should please your husband, and great...
If there's one thing the secular world does teach, in a twisted way, but the message gets through (at least I guess it gets through to the yiddishe neshoma, which is a ben Rachamim anyway, down deep, one hopes) is that you should please your partner, should please your wife...or maybe it's just jsirpicco and I always just wanted my girl to be satisfied...
But MY Rosh YEshiva DID say that all sex is ultimately unsatisfying (he was speaking to men) except when you satisfy the woman - and that is the truest statement I know...
Okay, but meanwhile...so is it really all that messed up that there is NO ONE to go to, to discuss how to make that aspect of marriage satisfying?
If people have to fall back on "well, the kids are everything," that's unfortunate...
And everyone's all worried about Yichus for their shidduchim...how about worrying about whether your son's future inlaws or daughters future in laws actually had a happy marriage? HMMMMM?
Very sad...Jsirpicco feels the pain and sadness of people out there...It's "flabergasting," actually....oy vey.
And you know what, I'm not that naive...I know people have messed up sex lives...but gosh, it's like the easiest thing in the world to fix...if...
If the husband and wife want it to be good...and that's a big if...
And then again, it's probably not that hard, and it remains sad that the only satisfying sex is with the few that get it, or "outside" with prostitutes - or, if you believe that crazy witch bifemme, with some other girl?????
Okay...my rant is done. Jsirpicco must go and dry his tears....for the Jewish people....
Ultimately, it's tragic...people run to affairs and whores and get in all sorts of trouble and mess up their kedusha and everything like that, when all it takes is a little Oral Sex and few changes of position and a back massage and techniqes from the husband....and everything would be happily ever after!
I agree! It needs to be taught that there is nothing wrong with Oral sex and pleasing your partner. Believe me guys, If my wife had just been taught normal sex ed in he Frummie school I would be making love to her in a beautiful way instead of finding other women to fuck.
That is the story of my life, I aint proud of it, but thats the story.
And Plenty of frum men from BP, Monsey, Lakewood, and othewr jewish communities have such bad sex lives at home that they have to resort to fucking
'other' women ( or men)
It is an epidemic, but it is the truth folks!
You may say I am messed up, but it is the fuckin frum system that messed me up!
Stop talking about "Torah. Torah, Torah" all day, and teach boys and girls that it is OK to passionately french kiss your spouse, and have out of this world oral sex!!
yikes! Messed up yid, I feel your pain, guy...like I said...is there no NORMAL Rebbetzin out there to help the girls understand????
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What about the singles waiting to be married. People collect $$$$$$ for hachnasas kala but do nothing for singles
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