Foolish Pleasure, & the true path to Hashem

You teased me,
Your eyes said you’d please me.
Your look gave me shivers,
of pleasure……you wanted “me”

But if to my ear I had held a shell,
I would hear the voices of others tell,
How you pleased yourself…..and very well.

Over a drink,
We drank each other in,
My thirst could not be quenched
And so I gave in.

I broke promises,
Closed my eyes,
No, no,… I don’t want to see
Images of what and who I might lose,
By this reckless gluttony.

Layer by layer, I unclothed my vows,
And gave myself away.

And oh, the passion and the joy
I gave my all, I wasn’t coy

I gave and took, and gave again,
I pleased you….
You took and took and took and then,
You……pleased yourself.

Oh, you foolish girl
Will you never learn?
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Sissel - Can't Go Back

Girl don´t be sad
You know what you´re not missing
No reason to feel bad
He don´t mean much with his kissin'
You´re going to make it through
You have always been surviving
I´ve got faith in you
And I know you´ll get it going
But you can´t go back
to what it never was
to repossess,
what you never owned
But you can´t go back
to what it never was
This is that time,
this is that time
when you´re better off alone
Girl don´t you see
There´s nothing more to see there
You´ve got a friend in me
And I will always be here
And you know it won´t be long
Until it´s all behind you
You will meet someone
Someone´s bound to find you
But you can´t go back
to what it never was
to repossess,
what you never owned
But you can´t go back
to what it never was
This is that time,
this is that time
when you´re better off alone
Even alone at night
You will be alright
You´re so strong – you will get over him
And there will be times
That I´ll expect these lies
Not to comfort – but remind you
But you can´t go back

FIGURE IT OUT

And coupled with these two pieces, there is a third and most important message that I want to convey. Tshuva! It's never too late to be better. No matter what we've done, Hashem is our father and if we are serious and really repent, He will forgive us. THERE ARE NO EXCUSES! No matter what we tell ourselves, that life wasn't fair to us, that we need more love, attention, etc. etc. There are no BUT'S and NO EXCUSES. Hashem wants us to live in a certain way, and to obey His rules, and we can't wriggle out of them, no way! For instance, someone might say, "Well, I give a lot of Tzeduka, and I have a lot of Shiurim, so that will tip the scale, might as well have some fun in this life too." Or a person might say, "It's so unfair, I got stuck in this loveless marriage, but I have 4 kids, so I can't really walk out on my wife, but why can't I find true love, I deserve to be happy" NO EXCUSES. If life is so bad with your spouse, then you must change your life first, and then hope to find love, but not to sin during your marriage.

Life is sometimes hard - there is no question about it. But we can't question this hard life - we have to try and live with Simchas Hachaim, to live a life of happiness and joy, while believing wholeheartedly in our religion, and trying to live up to it. And there is so much good in this world; we have to focus on the positive; give your attention to trust, respect, honesty, abundance education and peace. We will never run out of good things because there's more than enough to go around for everyone. You have the ability to tap into all the good stuff this world has to offer and you will dissolve negativity. We can do it!

"The key to everything is the way you start. All beginnings are hard, because you need to swing things around from one direction to the very opposite. But once you have made a start, you will soon become accustomed to your new direction and it will no longer be so difficult. Therefore you must marshal all your strength and steel yourself to make an energetic start. You must begin each time with ever-renewed fire and passion for Hashem. Start as if you had never begun before at all."

(Rebbe Nachman of Breslov)